The Truth

The Truth, Spoken with Grace

By: Still Standing, Still Faithfully

Losing my daughter changed me in ways I could’ve never imagined. Grief didn’t just break my heart it reshaped my soul.

It taught me what matters and what no longer does.

It showed me who was truly there for me, and who simply couldn’t be or wouldn’t.

The silence from people I once called family was loud. The absence hurt more than words could ever express. I needed support, I needed love, I needed presence not perfection. But what I got from some was distance, avoidance, and disappointment.

And it made me realize: my peace, my healing, and my energy are sacred now.

I’ve had to make hard choices. I’ve let go of relationships,even with people I deeply cared for. Not out of anger, but out of necessity. Because I can no longer carry what was never mine to hold. I no longer have room for manipulation, guilt, or selective love. If it costs me my peace, it’s too expensive. If it adds weight to my grief, I lovingly release it.

This version of me isn’t cold. She’s healing. She’s learning how to protect her heart as it slowly learns to beat again.

If you’re in my life now, it’s because love, respect, and honesty live there too.

And if I’ve let go, please know it wasn’t easy. But it was necessary.

The truth is, grief reveals.

It shows you who’s genuine, who shows up, and who only stands nearby when things are convenient.

I’ve seen selfishness I never expected.

I’ve felt the sting of being overlooked, ignored, or excluded — even by those who had the power to help and the means to care.

And I’ve watched some quietly remove people from legacies they were never meant to erase.

That part still leaves me speechless. It’s been heartbreaking, and yes — at times, deeply disappointing.

But even in all of that, I’ve chosen not to carry bitterness.

Because I serve a God who sees everything.

The motives. The silence. The pride. The pain.

“The Lord is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait for Him.” — Isaiah 30:18

“Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight.” — Hebrews 4:13

“Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. — Romans 12:19

I don’t need to prove anything.

I don’t need to chase closure.

I don’t need to fight battles that aren’t mine to fight.

God sees what was done in secret.

He knows the weight of my heart.

And He promises to restore what others tried to withhold or destroy.

So yes — I’ve changed.

I walk differently.

I love more carefully.

I protect my peace fiercely.

But don’t mistake my boundaries for bitterness.

This is growth. This is healing.

This is God pulling me closer to Him and further from anything that was never rooted in truth.

And let me be clear —

I will not stay silent.

That has never been who I am, and it is not who God created me to be.

He gave me a voice, and I will use it — with grace, with strength, and with purpose.

Not to hurt, but to heal.

Not to shame, but to shine light.

To protect my peace.

To honor my daughter.

To remind others: God sees. God knows. And God will always make it right in His time.

I’m still standing.

Still faithfully.

Still healing.

Still speaking.

And I’m doing it with grace.

If this post spoke to your heart, I see you. You’re not alone. And you don’t have to stay silent either.

God sees. God knows. God restores.